Things are rapidly changing in my life and honestly a short time ago I couldn’t see myself at where I am at now. Change is difficult and one of the hardest things that I have had to endure to overcome what I have been faced with. It seems like not much has changed but when I look back from where I started everything is different. I believe when you stop focusing on what people believe about you or what the opinions of others might say about your life takes on a whole new meaning. It doesn’t matter what you’re trying to accomplish if you’re not doing it for yourself then you have already failed. This is a life lesson I have had to learn the hard way more than I can count. My journey has been long and I could say it has been easy but I would be telling a bold face lie. It has been painful and I have wanted to quit more times than I can count. I remember telling myself countless times things are going to get better and somehow this gave me the assurance to continue on to fight the next battle. My life currently isn’t what I envision quite yet but I am well on my path now to that vision. It’s a rewarding experience now to have others question my faith and look up to me for the strength to continue on with whatever life’s mayhem might be throwing at them. This has been something I am not quite used to and even though I don’t say it I sometimes question my ability to lead. How do you know if you are ready, how do you know if you are telling people the right things they need to hear, and how do you give advice when your life is still a little misguided at times. I ask myself these questions but I guess its human nature to doubt things at times. I still search myself for the wisdom and motivation to continue down the path I lead and it’s because of others that have given me the courage to keep pushing forward even when I was tired and couldn’t see the way. It takes a strong person to accomplish the things I have in this short amount of time and I wonder to myself how many others have endured the struggles I still face. How did they push through those walls that you sometimes get caught up at and most importantly when the fighting ends? If you had these answers readily available about life I believe you would be a very wealthy individual as we all seek some sort of guidance in our lives.
I heard a saying in one of my groups I attend with fellow Veterans that have really stuck out to me for some reason. I remember being in this group disgruntled almost at the fact that I had already pre convinced myself that I wasn’t going to be able to take anything away from the hour class. The other veteran said I heard this from an old man once and it has stuck with me “Everyone wants to be understood but no one wants to understand” I couldn’t stop focusing on this as I tried to mentality grasp this concept and see where it applies to my life. I believe this short saying has to be one of the greatest moments in my current life that has stuck out to me. We all do want to be understood and if people were more understanding life wouldn’t be as cold as it can be today. How many of us actually take the time to understand though? It seems like if it doesn’t affect us directly then we have no remorse or understanding of what else might be going on around us. I strive to be more of an understanding person as I feel it’s in our human nature to block the things out that are not in tune with our lives. I have learned you cannot change the world you can only change yourself. People are going to be people and for myself I can only change my perception on things and try to cut out the people that don’t share those same interests. I was once lonely as the people around me didn’t have my best intentions are heart and truly did not want to see me succeed. I have now built new relationships with people that challenge me carving me into a better person and a more successful leader for the future. I try to get a better understanding myself through a mentor and I am a firm believer even the greatest of leaders look to others above them for guidance.
Cutting the negativity out from my life has proved one of the best decisions I have made recently and it will actually shock you as to the new people that will start to gravitate towards you. It’s lonely at first and being patient is defiantly not one of my strong points. Slowly but surely better people with fill that void and being around people that actually care and want to see you succeed is a feeling quite of its own. I have started to build a solid foundation and in clinical terms I guess you could call it a support system. I looked at it at a different perspective though I look at it as a foundation in which to build upon.
My life has turned a course for the best and I am now on the path I want to lead. People still doubt me and even criticize my motives but those people don’t matter anymore as the things I wanted to put behind me are now there. My life has been the craziest adventure you could imagine but I feel as if the worst is behind me at this point and the best has yet to come.
I heard a saying in one of my groups I attend with fellow Veterans that have really stuck out to me for some reason. I remember being in this group disgruntled almost at the fact that I had already pre convinced myself that I wasn’t going to be able to take anything away from the hour class. The other veteran said I heard this from an old man once and it has stuck with me “Everyone wants to be understood but no one wants to understand” I couldn’t stop focusing on this as I tried to mentality grasp this concept and see where it applies to my life. I believe this short saying has to be one of the greatest moments in my current life that has stuck out to me. We all do want to be understood and if people were more understanding life wouldn’t be as cold as it can be today. How many of us actually take the time to understand though? It seems like if it doesn’t affect us directly then we have no remorse or understanding of what else might be going on around us. I strive to be more of an understanding person as I feel it’s in our human nature to block the things out that are not in tune with our lives. I have learned you cannot change the world you can only change yourself. People are going to be people and for myself I can only change my perception on things and try to cut out the people that don’t share those same interests. I was once lonely as the people around me didn’t have my best intentions are heart and truly did not want to see me succeed. I have now built new relationships with people that challenge me carving me into a better person and a more successful leader for the future. I try to get a better understanding myself through a mentor and I am a firm believer even the greatest of leaders look to others above them for guidance.
Cutting the negativity out from my life has proved one of the best decisions I have made recently and it will actually shock you as to the new people that will start to gravitate towards you. It’s lonely at first and being patient is defiantly not one of my strong points. Slowly but surely better people with fill that void and being around people that actually care and want to see you succeed is a feeling quite of its own. I have started to build a solid foundation and in clinical terms I guess you could call it a support system. I looked at it at a different perspective though I look at it as a foundation in which to build upon.
My life has turned a course for the best and I am now on the path I want to lead. People still doubt me and even criticize my motives but those people don’t matter anymore as the things I wanted to put behind me are now there. My life has been the craziest adventure you could imagine but I feel as if the worst is behind me at this point and the best has yet to come.